Day four: God gives a Call to Faithfulness for love

christian-wedding-vowsCan Christians divorce? Today God speaks this: Love means being faithful to the one you have vowed to love.
1. Love involves a vow made in a covenant relationship between two parties.
2. God is the witness (the third party) of this love vow.
3. The legitimate parties of the covenant are bound by the demand of faithfulness.
4. The ultimate court of appeal for the wronged party is God.
5. The ultimate Supreme Judge looks for one performance standard: Kindness is due performance of your vow of love. Love does not cause harm.
6. God looks at the heart condition.
7. Wordiness (without due performance to fulfill your vow) does not get you anywhere in this court of justice of love.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Bible verses:
Malachi 2:10-17 New Living Translation (NLT)
10 Are we not all children of the same Father? Are we not all created by the same God? Then why do we betray each other, violating the covenant of our ancestors?
11 Judah has been unfaithful, and a detestable thing has been done in Israel and in Jerusalem. The men of Judah have defiled the LORD’s beloved sanctuary by marrying women who worship idols. 12 May the LORD cut off from the nation of Israel[a] every last man who has done this and yet brings an offering to the LORD of Heaven’s Armies.
13 Here is another thing you do. You cover the LORD’s altar with tears, weeping and groaning because he pays no attention to your offerings and doesn’t accept them with pleasure. 14 You cry out, “Why doesn’t the LORD accept my worship?” I’ll tell you why! Because the LORD witnessed the vows you and your wife made when you were young. But you have been unfaithful to her, though she remained your faithful partner, the wife of your marriage vows.
15 Didn’t the LORD make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his.[b] And what does He want? Godly children from your union. So guard your heart; remain loyal to the wife of your youth. 16 “For I hate divorce!”[c] says the LORD, the God of Israel. “To divorce your wife is to overwhelm her with cruelty,[d]” says the LORD of Heaven’s Armies. “So guard your heart; do not be unfaithful to your wife.”
17 You have wearied the LORD with your words.
“How have we wearied him?” you ask.
You have wearied him by saying that all who do evil are good in the LORD’s sight, and he is pleased with them. You have wearied him by asking, “Where is the God of justice?”
2:12 Hebrew from the tents of Jacob. The names “Jacob” and “Israel” are often interchanged throughout the Old Testament, referring sometimes to the individual patriarch and sometimes to the nation.
2:15 Or Didn’t the one Lord make us and preserve our life and breath? or Didn’t the one Lord make her, both flesh and spirit? The meaning of the Hebrew is uncertain.
2:16a Hebrew For he hates divorcing.
2:16b Hebrew to cover one’s garment with violence.


Matthew 19:3-9 Amplified Bible (AMP)

And Pharisees came to Jesus, testing Him and asking, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?” He replied, “Have you never read that He who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and shall be joined inseparably to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate.” The Pharisees said to Him, “Why then did Moses command us to give her a certificate of divorce and send her away?” He said to them, “Because your hearts were hard and stubborn Moses permitted you to divorce your wives; but from the beginning it has not been this way. I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery[a].”


  1. Matthew 19:9 Some early mss add the phrase “…and he who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.”

2 thoughts on “Day four: God gives a Call to Faithfulness for love

  1. Divorce is an act of external bitterness-Unforgiveness. As Jesus rightly says, “hardness of heart” is the reason anyone seeks divorce. The Lord led me to seek answers. I’ve done extensive study in regards to marriages, within all Bible versions, researched earliest definitions and translations, studied early Church history, read early Christian literature, commentaries, and many more sources and have found that it’s only in the last 500 years (Erasmus’ translation) that Christians have accepted “exception clauses” and divorce, and even “remarriages”.
    The evidence all shows that fornication mentioned in Matthew’s gospel was indeed pertaining ONLY to the betrothal period (Joseph and Mary’s case). Fornication never meant adultery. No transgressions committed by either spouse while married is unforgivable. Mark 10:10-12, Luke 16:18, 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, Romans 7:1-4 are all united with Matthew 5 & 19. If a spouse divorced the other, they are still one-flesh which is exactly why all remarriages are ongoing adulteries if their covenant spouse is still alive. The same forgiveness, grace, mercy, and love that Christ gave to us who love and obey Him, are always to be extended to others. Christ spoke clearly and stated that porneia and moichao were different sins. In Matthew 19:10, His disciples were obviously shocked by His teaching on divorce and remarriage Bc Christ did not agree with either of the Rabbis-Hillel and Shammai. One said a man could divorce if his wife had committed adultery and the other said a man could divorce for any reason. These schools of thoughts were taught and everyone was very much familiar with both Rabbis’ sayings. Jesus says that it is adultery if either of the spouses are with another. All sins can be repented of. And to truly repent means to forsake. 1 Cor 6:9-10, Gal 5:16-21, 1 Cor 7:39, Heb 13:4, Gal 3:15.

    In Mark 10:8, Jesus said, “…no longer two, but one flesh” well, the “no longer” is “Ouketi” means “never again”-He uses Ouketi in other verses-Mark 14:25, John 6:66, and Acts 8:39….when you read those verses, you know that he was being clear that it did not happen again. Also, the “cleave” and “joined”used in Scriptures literally means to be cemented, stronger than KrazyGlue. It’s impossible once cement is mixed, it’s impossible to unmix it. If hardened, it can be smashed in broken pieces, and it’s impossible to match up any of those broken pieces to anything else other than the original whole piece itself.

    Also, Mark was writing to a Roman culture where women could divorce. Whereas only Jewish men could divorce.

    To summarize, Ephesians 5:22-28 lets us know how to love our spouses. Not just when they are deserving and loving, but when they don’t deserve it. As Christ commands us to forgive, “go 2 miles”, persevere, and love we should also remember that if we are divorced, we are commanded to remain single otherwise be reconciled.


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